Hawaii Birds and such

It didn’t work out to do a birding tour while I was in Hawaii but I still managed to get 19 lifers on my own!

On Oahu:

In Maui:

In Kaui:

And no, I didn’t tell anyone that I was hoping to see Boobies on the cruise… but I was. 🙂

I also saw a Hammerhead shark from our balcony on the ship but it was gone before I could grab my camera. But I did get some shots of this Barracuda that showed up a few minutes later. It was at least 5 feet long!

Check out this close-up of its head:

I also saw a female Hawaiian Garden Spider that I thought was pretty cool:

Hawaiian Garden Spider

It was a great trip!

Highlights (and lowlights) from Ecuador

Just two days short of the anniversary of my birding trip to Ecuador, I finally finished going through all my photos! After a few corrections (Thanks Steven!), I ended up with photos of 281 different species of birds, which brings my life list up to 731.

Shot I was happiest with:

Andean Cock-of-the-rock

You often cannot see this bird’s beak because its large crest usually obscures it. I was hoping to get a photo with the beak visible, and I did it!

Shot I was unhappiest with:

Channel-billed Toucan

I had just been taking some photos in a lower light situation, and forgot to zero my settings again before taking a photo of this beautiful toucan. By the time I realized it, the toucan had flown away. This was the best shot I could salvage.

Prettiest bird I don’t remember seeing:

Paradise Tanager

What I nice surprise to come across this photo! I don’t remember it at all. It was on the second last day of the trip, so I may just have been in overload by then. This bird reminds me of those Mexican wrestlers that wear the masks. 🙂

Bird with the best name:

Shining Sunbeam

This little hummingbird has a rainbow on its back when the light hits it just the right way. I was happy to get a shot of the rainbow effect.

Most interesting variation:

Booted Racket-tail
Booted Racket-tail (E)

These are the same species of bird, but in the west the “boots” are white and in the east the “boots” are orange.

First photo I took (that I kept):

Golden Grosbeak

Taken on Nov. 30th at 9:08 am.

Last photo that I took (that I kept):

Tawny-bellied Hermit

Taken on Dec. 14th at 1:33 pm.

Coolest hummingbird (in my opinion):

Sword-billed Hummingbird

I photographed 51 species of hummingbirds, but this one was my favourite. So beautiful and so ridiculous at the same time!

Best family shot:

Torrent Ducks (l to r: duckling, male, female, duckling)

We got to watch this family of white-water ducks travel down the river together. I thought those ducklings would drown, but they made it!

It was an amazing trip! If you’d like to see my other bird photos from Ecuador, click here.

My Letter

I am posting the letter I wrote for my anthology Dear Me: The Widow Letters for a couple of reasons.

  • To promote the book – an ongoing self-publishing reality. If you are interested in purchasing the book, please visit my online bookstore: diannesbookstore.bigcartel.com
  • As an example of the type of letter I am seeking for my new project Dear Me: The Mother Letters. I am looking for women who have experienced the death of a child (at least one year ago), to contribute letters for this new book. I would like to have all the letters by the end of 2019. You can find more information about this project here:
    http://dianneyoung.ca/2019/01/07/dear-me-the-mother-letters/ .

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Bill died in 2014 at the age of 67, after prolonged health problems. He died peacefully with Dianne and their two sons by his side. Dianne was 55 years old and they had been married for 30 years. She wrote this letter almost two years after Bill died.

Dear Me,

You had no idea that heartache could be such a literal thing, did you? Sometimes the pain is so intense it takes your breath away. I know. And your eyes never seem to stop leaking. It’s okay. Gasp. Sob.  Cry. Feel. Feel sad, feel angry, feel betrayed, feel it all. None of it is wrong. There is no right way to grieve – there is only your way. Will it get better? Eventually. But not for a long time. And though in time your heart will not feel like it is seizing up in your chest, it will never feel the same. It will always feel like a part of it is missing, because it is. Bill’s life and love was adhered to your heart, and having it yanked away leaves a scar.

It is not crazy to feel that Bill is close by, reaching out to you, whispering in your ear. You will become highly suspicious of coincidence. I like what author Emma Bull said – “Coincidence is the word we use when we can’t see the levers and pulleys.” You will remember things as you head out the door – “do you have your…?”. You will smile when just the right song comes on the radio. And you will feel his arms around you when you need it most. Believe.

You will want to talk about Bill. This will make some people uncomfortable. The first time It will silence the room. That’s not your problem. And they will get over it. People don’t mean harm. They’re just worried that you’re going to fall apart. And you might. And that’s okay, too. I’m not saying to go out of your way to bring Bill’s name into every conversation, but when something “reminds you of the time”, go ahead and say it. It will be good for you, and for them.  

Do not be afraid to ask for help. There are things you will have to do alone now, that Bill did before, or that you did together. As he became sicker, you were the brawn and he was the brains on many a project and you made a great team. Now it’s just you, but you will figure it out. You have friends. You have family. You have Youtube. It’s amazing what you can learn to do there! And if all else fails, you have the common sense to hire a professional.

What’s really exhausting is the decision making. Sorry. It just is. There is no more “What do you want to do?” “What do you think?” “Where do you want to go?” It’s all on you. If there is a good side to it at all, it’s that you no longer have to compromise about anything. You can have your way. Everyday. Every time. But it will take time before it feels like that outweighs having Bill’s opinion, but it will eventually. I hope.

Go easy on yourself. Take the time you need. From work, from activities, from obligations. And not just at the beginning. Once you go back to work, things will seem to be going fine and then WHAMO! Something (or nothing) will hit you and you’ll feel like you’re back to square one in your grieving. That’s okay. The only way to deal with it is to feel it. There is no time limit on grief. There is no “keeping your mind off it”, or at least no healthy way. Cry when you want to. Mourn when you need to. Be the understanding friend to yourself that you would be to someone else going through the same thing.

You will survive. Right now you’re wondering if you will, but you will. And you’ll go on to make important decisions for your life. Not always easy decisions, but important ones. Do not be afraid to go in new directions. You know what’s best for you. Trust me.